Catholic men dating
The guilt, jealousy, and sexual ghosts from unchaste sexual encounters can seriously impact the way we see ourselves, the opposite sex, and sex itself.
There are plenty of regrets that come from not living chastity – but I’ve never met anyone who has regretted choosing virtue.
Anything less than chastity is settling – and you were made for more, so please don’t settle for less. We’re not good at this whole being-upfront-about-feelings things, because we’ve grown up in a world where whoever cares the least wins.
The Situation: It starts in kindergarten, with playground shoves and pulling hair (that means he likes you? So how on earth are we actually supposed to get it together?
Dating is an awesome, terrible, challenging, great, heartbreaking institution. It can leave you floating on air or crashing back to earth.
The Situation: Things seem to be going pretty well – and then all of a sudden it ends with one line: “It’s not you, it’s God.” Sometimes, well-intentioned Catholics will use God to get out of a relationship they don’t want to be in anymore. Those are both decisions that we made for ourselves, but they sound way better if God told us to do it.
If I tell a joke to a girl and she laughs, does that mean I’ve messed with her emotional chastity by inadvertently flirting?
Oh no, he sneezed and I said ‘God bless you’ – I hope he doesn’t think I have a crush on him! Be friends with your friends and pursue the women you want to date (one at a time, of course).
The Solution: There are rom-coms and there’s real life, so just try to stay rooted in reality: when a man wants to ask a woman out on a date, he will. We live in a world that treats sex (and other sexual acts) like no big deal, where “as long as you’re in love, it’s okay,” and where you don’t have to go looking for porn, because porn comes looking for you. He Says: We tend, especially as men, to think chastity is just saying no, but it’s so much more than that. It is saying I will respect myself, my family, my girlfriend, my future wife, and my future children.Neither of those situations are good for our sanity.If a guy shows an interest in you, it’s okay to let him know you like him, too.Break-ups are always tough, but they’re even harder when the person you’ve been dating tells you that they’re ending things because God told them to. Someone once ended things with me by saying, “It’s what God wants” – and I can 100% say I’m glad that didn’t work out, but I wish she wouldn’t have played the God card.I would have preferred that she just tell me how she was feeling.